Violence frequently gets worse when you try to leave or show signs of independence, like taking a class or filing for divorce. Your partner may become desperate. Take special care.

You do not have control over your partner's violence but you do have a choice about how to react to the violence. You have to keep yourself safe by using your judgement and intuition.

You may want to give your partner what they want to calm them down. You have to protect yourself and/or the children until you are out of danger.

The following strategies are from women who have lived through an abusive relationship.

1. Stay Alive!
   

2. Cover Your Tracks
   

3. The Escape Plan
   

4. The Aftermath